Why Do We Love?

Love is an affection based on admiration, benevolence, and/or common interests. It’s also one of the most confusing emotions because it is a scary and risky feeling.

To feel strong enough for someone to allow them to have all of you; To have them be a big part of your life; to have them know about all your secrets; to want to spend every free moment you have with them.

We do this everyday with our family and best friends that we have known for most of our lives, but the thought of someone new coming into your life to possibly fill the empty spot in our hearts as a life companion requires you to be brave in order to share all those feelings you have been hiding from the world.

Scientifically, love is an environmental adaptation for humans to survive; and to make sure mates stay together, protect each other, and help continue the success of their offspring.

But as my friend recently reminded me, “Love is the greatest gift to mankind. True love can only exist through adversity and in a world full of sin and hardships. Love can thrive but only if we learn to fight and overcome this adversity. For with the greatest adversity comes the strongest bond of love.”

My friend continued to say that we hide our vulnerability to protect ourselves from getting hurt. But love wouldn’t be valuable if it weren’t risky.

This reminded me of C. S. Lewis, who once wrote, “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”

Love is one of the most cherished, amazing, and admired feelings. Everyone strives to find love one day, to find their soul mate that they can walk on the same path with. To spend their life with the one person that gives them butterflies every time they see them, to find that one person that challenges them to be a better person everyday.

We would be depriving ourselves from this amazing emotion and experience if we were not vulnerable; if we did not risk showing our complete selves.

This feeling is one that gains value every time we chose to be vulnerable. Every time we risk our heart, we learn something and we become stronger. We learn a little bit more about ourselves. We learn to love a little bit more.

Why do we love? Because it is the best little thing that life has to offer us. After all, it is the little things.


Going Out of the Way

Today, while working during the craziest sale of the year, I was helping a man who just got out of the army. He needed the essentials for backpacking.

I didn’t treat him any differently than any other customer. But he was just so grateful for everything. He was so used to not having very many choices. It was really refreshing to have someone so grateful after a very long day.

And on top of that after he had checked out he came all the way to the back of the store just to thank me for all my help. It made me feel good that I had helped him that much even though I was just doing my job. But it also reminded me that going out of your way to thank someone, for even the smallest things, makes the biggest difference.

It comes full circle when you voice your appreciation for the little things that people can do for you.